Women – The Carriers of Vagina

Born a girl? Your vagina is never your property. It’s everyone’s property – your parents, your society, your boyfriend, your husband, everyone’s, except yours. With the virtue of birth, it’s your parents’ and society’s responsibility, to protect it and to keep it away and safe from all possible invaders. Well, a right thing to do, except being constantly made to remind you of being a girl, woman or possibly a carrier of vagina.

In your childhood, it’s your parents’ responsibility. In your teen age, it’s your boyfriend’s responsibility. In your 20-s & 30-s, it’s your husband’s responsibility. And by the time it turns incapable of bearing any more responsibilities, it finally becomes your responsibility. Your vagina is held responsible for everything – irrational or illogical, causes as well as effects. At times, side effects. Everything that you were barred from enjoying or being decisive about. Even those little things. Behave like a girl! Sweet Lord! Who are these women with a preset benchmark of “behaving like a girl”?! If there exists any such fairy godmothers, I would like to meet them all. Actually they are just there, living amidst us and are perfectly veiled under the disguise of mere ideologies that self – proclaim what a woman needs to do and what she need not. 

In cue of all the controversies that will be hurled at me, the most prominent and persistent one will be – They are just being protective, caring and all such glorified adjectives. Well, to all such controversial statements that demand explanation, once and for all, nobody asked you to be the Perseus to the Damsel in Distress in me.

There’s a noticeable thick line of difference between – “Being protective and being constantly imbibed upon your existence as a girl, woman or female negatively, is annoying. Agonizing actually.

Writing all this or merely pointing out the apparent may lead many of you into wrongly believing that I’m a hardcore feminist. This doesn’t need feminism. It needs logic. Feminism is a choice. Logic more so, is not. It’s expected of you as the most civilized of all the species.

Well of me, I’m just another pen with insight who can’t choose to be blinded to these things.

Females are meant and chosen to be different. And it would be appreciated and admired if we all just accept and respect it in full power of our dignity.

Let’s not have set parameters. Let’s minimize the difference and maximize the understanding; for knowing someone always depends on the willingness of that person to open up whereas understanding comes from within.

– Swati Prakash

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    1. That’s why woman is compared to mother earth.Ever accepting& always giving selflessly.Always maligned, misunderstood & mauled too.But she shows resilience to stand up & correct the perception.longlive womankind

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  1. A beautifully written piece. Allow me to disagree here. Every portion of a woman’s body belongs to her, even the “vagina”. Without her consent the same cannot be owned, as written, by anyone. NO!
    Yes, she needs to be protected by her man (Father, Brother, Friends, Boyfriend and Husband/ Companion because She- the Woman – is a treasure to be treasured and worshipped.
    Regards.

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    1. With all due respect to what you said, that’s not what I have written. It is satirically written for some of us who consider it as one. Besides, in today’s world irrespective of the gender both need equal level of protection. ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

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  2. The blog post begins with raising an issue with how women’s mannerisms, choices, and freedom in general is controlled by the society and men in general, and ends with an appeal for greater understanding between genders and of the female gender in particular. Which for me is a fair appeal. Where I would disagree with the article is a brief patch in between on how feminism is a choice or logic, and is expected of the most civilized of species.

    And I do not disagree with the spirit of that part, but how things naturally are set to be. Just because humans are the most civilized of species does not mean humans cease to be what they are – humans, part of the animal kingdom. Yes, we are animals by nature, and it can be debated ad nauseam whether social conditioning can trump evolutionary biology. But the fact of the matter is every newborn baby is by default born pre-programmed to behave as per evolutionary biology code evolved over millions of years. And to ‘civilize’ it means a fresh effort per baby ever since it is born to override some aspects of evolutionary biology to have a semblance of stability in the collective society. That is an effort that has to happen on every baby, whereas if left to their own, they would have the evolutionary biological mannerisms dictating them by default.

    And therein lies the crux of the issue. Feminism, or whatever you want to call it, seeks to completely replace the pre-programmed code of evolutionary biology with the desired social conditioning ‘civility’ code, while simultaneously attacking the very system which has been tried and tested to succeed the most in achieving it even partly. And that system that feminism attacks is civilization itself.

    And that might seem to far-fetched to say, but for good reasons or bad, the higher the penetration of feminist ideology within a civilization, the weaker the institution of family in the civilization (for good reasons or bad, as a trend, this holds true without exception). I am making an extremely controversial statement here – the patriarchal family system is the foundation of civilization. No civilization which has seen an erosion of the patriarchal family system within itself has survived beyond three generations. It has always been organically replaced, through internal collapse or external aggression, by a civilization in which there is a higher degree of patriarchy and consequently a stronger institution of family. Most people who advocate for feminism often assume that it is a new ideology evolved from the 18th century onwards — it is not. Civilizations go through cycles of patriarchy and adoption of feminist ideology (which essentially also correlates to an erosion of cultural adherence). Patriarchy manifests within a civilization most strongly when it is an emerging, dominant, and expansionist power. Feminism manifests itself slowly during times of extended peace within the civilization – a peace that the ancestors within that civilization establish through hard-fought wars guided by patriarchal values. The percolation of feminism during times of extended peace is in a way the civilizational lowering of guard, leaving it increasingly vulnerable as I said, to internal collapse or external hostile civilization takeover. This phenomenon is essentially what is called as Spenglerian cycles. And a study of more than 80+ civilizations by the anthropologist ‘J. D. Unwin’ published in his book ‘Sex and Culture’ also confirms the occurrence of such cycles.

    Of course, when a civilization is slowly transitioning from patriarchy towards adopting feminist values (which are suicidal on a macro-level for the civilization), there are always going to be elements within the civilization that will tend to oppose this transition, although they may not have the awareness of the reasoning behind why they are opposing the transition in the first place. And therefore, that opposition would manifest into behavior resembling as ‘controlling’ when it comes to treatment of women. Because in the absence of being able to provide a logical explanation as to why women should ‘be like women’, it is bound to sound irrational, insecure, toxic, and misogynistic. Whereas, they are only, even if unconsciously, trying to protect that very framework which has managed to create circumstances where women’s liberation and freedom could even exist as concepts worth pondering upon.

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    1. Thank you and appreciate this! ๐Ÿค—โค๏ธ Kaushal! You took an effort to pen down this itself speaks volumes about the impact the write-up had. ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

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      1. I’ve come to admire your writing as I said on the basis of the Erotica posts. It is on the basis of those that I realized you’re someone with whom philosophical discussions would turn out fantastic. As a former feminist, it is always a nice experience to engage with well-meaning persons who continue to be feminists today.

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  3. This an absolute gem from you because it totally show how far is too far. We are in 21st but still people are in 2nd….well done swati keep going would love to read more of your blogs.

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