Born a girl? Your vagina is never your property. It’s everyone’s property – your parents, your society, your boyfriend, your husband, everyone’s, except yours. With the virtue of birth, it’s your parents’ and society’s responsibility, to protect it and to keep it away and safe from all possible invaders. Well, a right thing to do, except being constantly made to remind you of being a girl, woman or possibly a carrier of vagina.
In your childhood, it’s your parents’ responsibility. In your teen age, it’s your boyfriend’s responsibility. In your 20-s & 30-s, it’s your husband’s responsibility. And by the time it turns incapable of bearing any more responsibilities, it finally becomes your responsibility. Your vagina is held responsible for everything – irrational or illogical, causes as well as effects. At times, side effects. Everything that you were barred from enjoying or being decisive about. Even those little things. Behave like a girl! Sweet Lord! Who are these women with a preset benchmark of “behaving like a girl”?! If there exists any such fairy godmothers, I would like to meet them all. Actually they are just there, living amidst us and are perfectly veiled under the disguise of mere ideologies that self – proclaim what a woman needs to do and what she need not.
In cue of all the controversies that will be hurled at me, the most prominent and persistent one will be – They are just being protective, caring and all such glorified adjectives. Well, to all such controversial statements that demand explanation, once and for all, nobody asked you to be the Perseus to the Damsel in Distress in me.
There’s a noticeable thick line of difference between – “Being protective and being constantly imbibed upon your existence as a girl, woman or female negatively, is annoying. Agonizing actually.
Writing all this or merely pointing out the apparent may lead many of you into wrongly believing that I’m a hardcore feminist. This doesn’t need feminism. It needs logic. Feminism is a choice. Logic more so, is not. It’s expected of you as the most civilized of all the species.
Well of me, I’m just another pen with insight who can’t choose to be blinded to these things.
Females are meant and chosen to be different. And it would be appreciated and admired if we all just accept and respect it in full power of our dignity.
Let’s not have set parameters. Let’s minimize the difference and maximize the understanding; for knowing someone always depends on the willingness of that person to open up whereas understanding comes from within.
– Swati Prakash